Naija men 101... finding mr.right in London

A lot of my female friends are at the point that they are talking about getting married and looking for “Mr Right” most of them are falling in and out of relationships and sometimes, they turn to me for my take on things. In the past, I am quick to condemn them and forceful make them to see reasons, but I have been burned so many times and now I just keep my mouth shut and simply listen to their views and sometimes, watch them dig themselves into a hole. But guess what guys, this is my blog, my voice and I will say things as I see them.

I don’t care what a woman says, no naija guy wants to be asked out, they enjoy the chase and it is your place to play hard to get, naija men will not keep anything that comes easy.

Never ever, assume you are dating a naija man, until he actually says so. I have known naija men that said “Did I ask her out”?

Everyman wants to have sex with you, no matter what religion they belong to. If you don’t want to have sex, it is ok, but please don’t throw it at their faces, even before they ask you out.

Keep your past sexual escapades to yourself. Naija man will run if he thinks you know a thing or two.

Please leave all your spiritual talks behind, demons, witches, snakes, cats etc. These things scare the hell out of naija men. You will only drive them away.

Be careful how you get too spiritual. They like women that are prayerful, but not those that keep binding and bounding the devil each time they see a bat, dog or cat.

I know you have money, you are a contractor with a good income, but please naija men don’t like wasteful girls. Those that boast about their £350 Gucci bags, £150 tee shirt and £600 LV bags. You look stupid when you spend £700 on a bag and you live a rented flat in Newham! Keep it real at all times.

Keep away from his family; don’t be too eager to speak to the siblings, visit the mother or aunty that came into town. You are not a wife, until they put a ring on your finger.

You can never force a naija man to propose to you. Forget it, even if he talks about it, I want to marry you is not the same as buying a ring, proposing, calling his family and friends to announce the engaged… all in this order. Engagements can be broken.

Leave your man’s friends alone. Even if you knew them before, be very careful. Their loyalty always lies with your man not you. Just love them but don’t get too close.

Easy with cooking, washing and cleaning for a man, before you marry him, remember, men tend to think “if it too good to be true, then it is not”.

Keep your mouth shut; don’t yap too much about the dramas of your female friends. I know someone that did not date a girl ‘cos she kept complaining about her girlfriends and falling out with them.

Don’t take you man to family dinners or invite him to speak to your parents on the phone, unless he actually asked you.

You must be ready to compromise and change, if required, ‘cos you are not as perfect as you think and naija men don’t compromise or change.

Naija men have issues with naija girls that have dated “white guys”… don’t ask me why, but that is how it goes.

Don’t yap too much about your ex- especially if the exs with children, exs that are 15-10years older than you. Naija men just simply can not handle it.

Naija men like strong women, must be able to hold down a job, have ambition and drive.

Be careful of naija men that will marry you for your career, family name or father’s money.

If everything fails and the relationships still don’t work, please don’t beg him oh! Let him go and keep away from him and his FRIENDS.